Thoughts and Reflections version 2 of the GNU General Public License the Creative Commons Attribution-ShareAlike 3.0 License

I have heard many people use the phrase love the sinner, hate the sin, especially in reference to homosexuality. And as for the idea itself (not its application to homosexuality), I think it's a great idea. I also think many people are wholly unsuccessful in how they express it.

I agree with the Unitarian Universalist principle that all people have inherent worth and dignity. I also love the human race and each of its individual members. My love for all humans is not like my love for my friends or family, or a partner, or any other type of love. I think the human condition is a unique experience and I am always excited to see how it turns out.

Nevertheless, I condemn things that some people do. I condemn killing others, for example. I condemn child abuse. There are many things that I think are unsuitable for bettering humanity. Herein lies the problem: how do we express to others that we disapprove of their actions, yet still love them?

One way that many people use is a but statement. For example, I love you, but I think it's wrong to be gay. This, I believe, is the wrong way to go about it. A well-known TV personality once said, but means forget everything I just said. I agree. When I hear but, I tend to think about what's coming next, and not what was just said.

Also, many people forget the affirmation of love altogether, only condemning the behavior. I think that a better way to handle the situation is to express your love for the person, explain what behavior you don't like, and then explain why the behavior is harmful. If you explain why the behavior is harmful, it will show that you've really thought about the consequences of the behavior, as well as showing that you care about the person and others, thus reinforcing the message of love.

I think my idea is worth trying.

Dixi.